At this year's Jaipur Literature Festival, the largest in Asia, it was a tiger mother filling the seats and drawing the crowds. 齋浦文學節是亞洲最大的文學節。今年，讓會場座無虛席，吸引群眾前來參加的是一位虎媽。
And I think Western parents these days, they're so worried their kids are going to feel bad if you say something negative. 我認為現在的西方父母……太擔心自己說了負面的話，會讓孩子心裡不好過。
Well, I think if you do something wrong, you should feel bad. 我的想法是，你如果做錯了事，當然應該要覺得不好過。
Amy Chua's writing, taken by some as a how-to guide on parenting, taken by others as a satirical look at cultural differences between East and West. 有些人把蔡美兒的著作當成教養子女的指南，另外有些人則認為她是以諷刺的方式檢視東、西方的文化差異。
This week on Talk Asia, we asked the Yale law professor 在本週的《亞洲名人聊天室》，我們問了這位耶魯法學教授，
if she has any regrets a year after Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother ignited the mommy wars and turned her into a best-selling author. 在《虎媽的戰歌》點燃媽媽戰爭並且讓她成為暢銷作家的一年之後，她是否有任何懊悔。
Did you have any idea that the reaction would be so severe? I mean, what were you getting from people? What were they saying to you? 你有沒有想過反應會這麼激烈？我是說，你收到了大眾什麼樣的回應？他們給了你什麼樣的意見？
This is so crazy. Before my book was published, my two daughters said to me, 這實在很瘋狂。在我的書出版之前，我的兩個女兒對我說：
"You know, Mommy, nobody's gonna read this book, 'cause it's a memoir and you're not a famous person and no one's gonna care." 「媽，沒有人會看這本書的，因為這是一本回憶錄，你又不是名人，沒有人會當一回事的。」
So, we just had no idea what was gonna come. 所以，我們完全沒想到結果會怎麼樣。
I would say, right after the Wall Street Journal excerpt came out, I started getting 500 e-mails a day. 可以這麼說，在《華爾街日報》刊登了內容摘要之後，我開始一天收到五百封電子郵件。
Some of them were incredibly supportive. Others... there's one I remember; it said "fan mail." 其中有些對我非常支持。至於其他的……我還記得一封，自稱是「書迷來信」。
I open it up and it said, "There's a special place for you in hell." 我點開之後，裡面卻寫著：「地獄裡有你專屬的住處。」
I got a lot of e-mails like that: "We're gonna get you in Chicago."?Then "Go back to China" profanities. 我接到了很多像這樣的電子郵件：「我們會到芝加哥讓你好看。」還有「滾回中國」的謾罵。
And you know what? I... after the firestorm broke out, I was thinking, "How could this happen to me?" 你知道怎樣嗎？我……在激烈的爭議爆發之後，我心裡想著：「這種事情怎麼會發生在我身上？」
It's just my own story. It's about my pulling back and, you know, not saying it's for everybody. 這本書只不過是我自己的故事，內容談的是我的讓步，並不是說這種方式適合所有人。
And, in retrospect, I think that I accidentally tapped into two of America's deepest anxieties -- fear of parenting and fear of China. 事後回顧起來，我想我是意外觸及了美國兩項最深刻的焦慮——對於親子教養的恐懼以及對中國的恐懼。
I just, like, hit that intersection, and it exploded. 我就像是一棒打中二者的交叉點，因而引爆了這樣的結果。
What mistakes are being made, though? What do you see as mistakes being made by Western parents? 不過，究竟有哪些錯誤？你認為西方父母犯了哪些錯誤？
I think that we worry a lot in the West about this question of self-esteem. 我認為西方人太擔憂自尊心的問題。
I think that real self-esteem, real confidence has to be earned, 我認為真正的自尊、真正的自信是必須掙來的，
you know, the old-fashioned way -- by overcoming a challenge or mastering something. 依循老派的方式——藉著克服挑戰或者精通某件事物。
It doesn't have to be anything fancy, but it's that feeling -- look, I didn't give up. 不需要是什麼了不起的東西，重點在於那種感覺——我沒有放棄。
I tried; I didn't give up, and I discovered that I actually could do something that I thought I couldn't. 我盡力了；我沒有放棄，結果發現自己確實能夠做到我原本以為自己做不到的事。
I think that's the way you build real resilience and real inner strength. Not just people giving you trophies all the time no matter what, or... 我認為這才是真正建立韌性與內在力量的方式，而不是別人不明究理就一直頒獎給你……
I don't think it's so helpful when parents praise their children when their kids themselves know they haven't put in their best effort. 我認為孩子如果明知自己沒有付出最大的努力，父母給予稱讚是沒有用的。
I don't know what that really achieves. 我不曉得這種做法究竟能夠達成什麼效果。
Do you think that the Asian way of doing things -- China and India -- of educating students, which is intense, intense studying, memorization, 你認為亞洲的作法——包括中國與印度——教育學生的方式很嚴格，要求密集的學習和背誦，
as opposed to sort of innovation and kind of keeping your mind a bit more open, is a better system than what is going on in America or the West? 相對於強調創新以及保持開放一點的心態，這樣的體制比美國或西方的作法來得好嗎？
I definitely don't think the Asian system is a better system. In fact, I think both "Eastern" and "Western" parenting have strengths and weaknesses. 我絕對不認為亞洲的方式比較好。實際上，我認為東方與西方的親子教養方式都各有優點與缺點。
I really think there is too much pressure in countries like China and Korea, especially, where everybody... 我確實認為像中國和韓國這些國家裡的壓力太大了，尤其是每個人……
you know, it's like your whole life comes down to one exam. And it's...I don't think it's tenable. I think something... 你知道，好像你的一生就取決於一場考試。我不認為這是可行的方式。我認為某些東西……
when I went to China and Korea, I said, you know, there need to be more choices and more definitions for what counts as success. 我到中國和韓國的時候，曾說成功必須有更多的選擇與定義。
You know, if your child is an incredible fashion designer, that should count as success. 如果你的孩子是個非常傑出的時裝設計師，這也是一種成功。
If your child is just a really happy writer, that should count as success. And they're still much more narrow in Asia. 如果你的孩子是個自得其樂的作家，這也是一種成功。目前成功的定義在亞洲還是狹隘得多。
There are, I think, a much smaller set of things that seem to satisfy parental expectations. And I think that should change, also. 我覺得能夠滿足亞洲父母期望的事物比西方少得多，我認為這點也應該改變。
I really think the idea is not which is better. You know, and that's one of the problems with the mommy wars, is the violence and the vitriol. 我認為重點不在於哪個比較好，而這正是媽媽戰爭的一個問題，就是其中的暴力與刻薄。
We shouldn't be talking about which way is better. You know, why don't we say, "What are some of the strengths of this system? What are the strengths of our system?" 我們討論不該是哪一種方式比較好。我們何不談談：「這種體制有哪些優點？我們的體制又有哪些優點？」
Can we try to pull in the best of all worlds? And all our kids will be happier. 我們能不能設法援引結合所有領域的精華？這樣我們的孩子都會快樂得多。